Out and About..........

It seems that Lee and I are passing each other frequently, either leaving or returning for one or two of us!  I had some errands to run today and Lee was scheduled to go to the rehab center in Hickory.  He departed around 9:30 and I left at 10:00.  I had decided to make a day of it, and in between errands was able to spend some time with my sister Bonnie, and Aunt Kat, who live in Lenoir.

By the time I finished the visits, filled the car with gas (now $3.29/gal), stopped by the grocery to pick up a few things......( I thought just a few.....spent $103.00!).  I think it was because I was hungry.  One pack of peanut butter crackers and water, along with a few slices of apples apparently weren't enough for my lunch on the run today.  One should never grocery shop when hungry..........................

Anyway, after leaving the grocery, I decided to check in with Lee and tell him the expected time of my arrival home.  No answer.  He was not at home.  I called his cell and he was out shopping with his friend, and the two of them had been looking at golf carts in Granite Falls.  I arrived home around 5:00, carried in the groceries, put them away, and started supper.  Lee arrived about 45 minutes after I came home. I could tell by the smile on his face that he had a good day with his friend. 

He continues to get stronger each day.  As his strength is returning, he is becoming more mobile.  There are some days when I just have to look the other way or swallow the words such as:  Do you have a face mask and hand sanitizer with you or, please try to stay out of the hay areas.........I have learned to try to refrain from my "mothering" and learn to trust his judgement.

I share this day with you so you may be able to see a good normal day that we are able to have from time to time.  We have rediscovered the relationship we had for so many years, that includes recognizing space for each other from time to time.  This has not been easy returning.  I remind you that Lee and I have spent almost every day together for the past two years.  There is a saying about marriage by the great Labanese poet, Kahil Gibran,  "Let there be separateness in your togetherness". 

I love sharing these good days and stories about Lee with all of you.  There were so many days in the past when I could only speak of the difficult days he had to endure.  Tonight I am spending time on the computer while Lee is............................Where is he anyway?

More Later...................................................Brenda