Thanksgiving was truly a wonderful holiday filled with plenty of good food, many of our family members and many blessing to be thankful for. Our day began early and the 20 lb turkey was in the oven by 6:30 a.m. The day began with a flurry of activities in the kitchen.
Doug was the first to arrive, followed by Todd. They both came early to help while their wives and children stayed at the other grandmother's helping her begin the preparations for the evening meal. Ours was to be a noon meal. The boys began by bringing our storage of prepared food from the lower level kitchen to the upper one. They were also the master carvers of the turkey and presented us with a tray fit for the finest chef. My tables were set for the expected 17. Within minutes, more family arrived and we were surprised to see our grandaughter, Rebekah and boyfriend Adam along with grandson Daniel. We did not think they would come since they usually go to the other grandparents for the noon meal. I quickly arranged the table to accomodate three more!
Around 11:30, the house began to fill as the rest of the family arrived. The girls all carried casseroles and more trays of food to add to the table while I held all the little children at bay as they entered the door. I was immediately surrounded by five little boys, ages ranging from 5 to 12, and two grandaughters ages 12 and 14. I explained to all that since they were school children, a purple mask must be worn to protect their grandaddy. They all complied and even seemed to enjoy wearing the purple "protection" for their grandaddy. Each time they entered a room in his presence, the mask came up. They were all especially thoughtful.
What a joy it was to once again be with our family and enjoy this holiday. We all gathered in a circle in the living room prior to eating and expressed our gratitude for having Grandaddy Lee with us again this year. This had marked exactly one year ago when he became ill. After feasting, I was able to relax while all the girls cleaned the tables, dishes, etc. I was truly blessed!
Later, Michaela(14) played the guitar and sang some of her songs and after the boys finished a game of tag football on the lawn I was able to convince them to play the piano for me. Max(5) played first and we named his beautiful song, "Running Waters", since he enjoyed rippling over the keys. Carson (9) followed with his recital piece and Chase(12) played his very own composed music. Truly a joy for his Nana!
Today as I talked to my brother Dennis, I learned that Betsy's mother died earlier this morning. She had a stroke two weeks ago and another one today. Please remember their family in your prayers. Betsy's Mom, Alice Newton was a wonderful, genteel lady and I will remember her with great fondness.
So good to be able to blog a little now. Lee continues to improve and is doing very well. Today he was able to drive his truck for the first time in about a year. He took it for a ride and had it inspected. He now walks mostly with a cane and is indeed enjoying his independence.
More Later...........................................Brenda
Friday, November 26, 2010
Friday, November 19, 2010
Preparations for the Holiday
Earlier this evening I had decided that I would not have the time to write this blog tonight. Writing, however, releases so much of my stress that I sometimes feel compelled to write. I have been very busy with food preparation for Thanksgiving and we are both looking forward to having our family gathering here once again. Today I made a carrot cake with some black walnuts that I had in the freezer. Later I was able to make the pie crusts for the traditional pumpkin pies. What a joy to be able to participate in the preparations for this Thanksgiving Holiday.
There were so many times during the past year that I doubted whether or not we would be able to have this celebration again. There were so many times that I was afraid we would lose Lee. As I write this blog I can share with you the good news that the husband who was with us last year for Thanksgiving is indeed here today and looking forward to seeing all the children and grandchildren next Thursday. I'm hoping he will once again be our master carver of the turkey.
Today was another good day for Lee. The lung transplant coordinator called and gave us the update on all his lab work that was done on Tuesday. We were told to lower his anti-rejection drug and that his potassium level is now within the normal range. That was good news. To date, Lee has not shown any signs of rejection and that was one of his main concerns. He has prayed that he would not reject his new lung. We walked at the Family Life Center walking track again this morning and then left to visit the Bill Canipe family @ noon. Please remember to pray for Debbie and Bill's son, Bradley. They are both going through the pain of loss of a loved one.
Once again, Lee decided to take a drive all by himself this afternoon. He now walks more and more with just the cane and is sometimes able to actually do a few small chores. I believe he is enjoying his new-found independence as much as I am!
I will be very busy with all sorts of preparations for the next few days and may not have time to visit with you on the blog. I'm glad some of you are still there and I look forward to writing to you again after the Thanksgiving Holiday. Enjoy your Turkey, your football games and your family.
More Later................................Brenda
There were so many times during the past year that I doubted whether or not we would be able to have this celebration again. There were so many times that I was afraid we would lose Lee. As I write this blog I can share with you the good news that the husband who was with us last year for Thanksgiving is indeed here today and looking forward to seeing all the children and grandchildren next Thursday. I'm hoping he will once again be our master carver of the turkey.
Today was another good day for Lee. The lung transplant coordinator called and gave us the update on all his lab work that was done on Tuesday. We were told to lower his anti-rejection drug and that his potassium level is now within the normal range. That was good news. To date, Lee has not shown any signs of rejection and that was one of his main concerns. He has prayed that he would not reject his new lung. We walked at the Family Life Center walking track again this morning and then left to visit the Bill Canipe family @ noon. Please remember to pray for Debbie and Bill's son, Bradley. They are both going through the pain of loss of a loved one.
Once again, Lee decided to take a drive all by himself this afternoon. He now walks more and more with just the cane and is sometimes able to actually do a few small chores. I believe he is enjoying his new-found independence as much as I am!
I will be very busy with all sorts of preparations for the next few days and may not have time to visit with you on the blog. I'm glad some of you are still there and I look forward to writing to you again after the Thanksgiving Holiday. Enjoy your Turkey, your football games and your family.
More Later................................Brenda
Thursday, November 18, 2010
He's on the Move!
Lee has had a phenomenal week! I can see his strength returning each day. He is now able to move about freely throughout the house without the aid of a walker or a cane. He does, however, use the walker first thing in the morning to navigate from the bedroom to the den.
Today we both had dental appointments for cleaning, x-ray and general check-up. Lee had not been to the dentist in over a year and we were concerned about some obvious staining of his teeth. We suspected that it was due to some of his medication and were afraid it might be permanent. Good news is that it is due to the oral nystatin (swish) that he must use four times a day. The hygienist was able to remove it all and he is now scheduled for cleanings every three months.
This afternoon Lee decided to go for a drive all by himself. When he left around 4:30 p.m. he told me he was making some special deliveries to some of the neighbors and not to expect him back until after dark. Wow! that was a surprise to me! It was a good feeling to watch him leave with just the cane and to be able to drive away. He was back around 6:00 and I have to confess that letting him go like that was akin to the first time one of my teen drivers left alone! You see, we have been practically "glued at the hip" for the past year and I have assumed a more responsible role in our relationship. It is good to finally see Lee developing more independence and releasing me. At the same time, I am having to wean myself from my more "parental" role that was imposed upon me due to his illness.
Even though I am filled with joy with Lee's progress, it is with sadness that we both had to experience the loss of our good friend, Bill Canipe today. Bill was anticipating the possibility of becoming a successful candidate for lungs @ Duke. Unfortunately he was too ill by the time he got there and had to be hospitalized. Please remember his wife Debbie and family in your prayers. Bill & Debbie were such great supporters for us during our entire time @ Durham. We will miss him very much.
My prayer is that each of you will enjoy your family this Thanksgiving. Cherish the time you have together and the memories you will be making. We plan to do the same.
More Later.................................Brenda
Today we both had dental appointments for cleaning, x-ray and general check-up. Lee had not been to the dentist in over a year and we were concerned about some obvious staining of his teeth. We suspected that it was due to some of his medication and were afraid it might be permanent. Good news is that it is due to the oral nystatin (swish) that he must use four times a day. The hygienist was able to remove it all and he is now scheduled for cleanings every three months.
This afternoon Lee decided to go for a drive all by himself. When he left around 4:30 p.m. he told me he was making some special deliveries to some of the neighbors and not to expect him back until after dark. Wow! that was a surprise to me! It was a good feeling to watch him leave with just the cane and to be able to drive away. He was back around 6:00 and I have to confess that letting him go like that was akin to the first time one of my teen drivers left alone! You see, we have been practically "glued at the hip" for the past year and I have assumed a more responsible role in our relationship. It is good to finally see Lee developing more independence and releasing me. At the same time, I am having to wean myself from my more "parental" role that was imposed upon me due to his illness.
Even though I am filled with joy with Lee's progress, it is with sadness that we both had to experience the loss of our good friend, Bill Canipe today. Bill was anticipating the possibility of becoming a successful candidate for lungs @ Duke. Unfortunately he was too ill by the time he got there and had to be hospitalized. Please remember his wife Debbie and family in your prayers. Bill & Debbie were such great supporters for us during our entire time @ Durham. We will miss him very much.
My prayer is that each of you will enjoy your family this Thanksgiving. Cherish the time you have together and the memories you will be making. We plan to do the same.
More Later.................................Brenda
Monday, November 15, 2010
Familiar sightings of home
As Lee and I were riding to the Family Life Center for our walking exercise, I was more aware of the familiar sightings along the way. Only in our country area of Vale can you find names of rural roads like "June Bug Lane, Cat Square and Hog Hill." Many of our rural roads are named after the families who either settled there first and laid claim to the area or they are named after that family because of the number of family members who currently reside there. Our road is named after two families, who at one time joined into marriage, thus the combined name of the road. Our roots here do not go deep enough to merit the naming of a road, however, when my brother wrote a book that included the geneology of my father's family, I learned that my roots in this county go back to the late 1700's. I have not to date found any roads named after the "Hermans" or the "Kanipes".
Exercise today was very good for Lee. He was able to walk for 30 minutes and I walked for 40 minutes. I met with a friend from church and she and I were able to catch-up on news in our absence. It is always easier to walk with a buddy. Afterwards there were the usual errands to run, then home for lunch followed by Lee's breathing treatment. This afternoon I decided to get a start on holiday baking and made two pecan pies. Later this evening a neighbor brought a freshly made pumpkin pie (with the pumpkin from his patch)......yum!
Since we have been home we have been the recipients of many home made goodies. We have Robert's famous sourdough rolls now residing in the freezer in anticipation of one of the holiday meals. Another friend from church brought a delicious pumpkin pie over last week. Margaret has given us some of her really good pimento cheese among other things. In addition, so many of Lee" farmer friends have been by to help feed the farm critters and cows and to always stop along the way to the convenience site. We are indeed blessed.
We did go to church on Sunday............only to our SS class. It was wonderful to see all of our old friends again. Lee wore a purple mask and a blue glove. Quite the dapper fellow! Everyone was very cautious to keep distance, to avoid hugs and handshakes. Lee spoke briefly to the class and reminded them that when he had to leave a year ago there were only about 12 people in our class. Sunday there were 28 and he reminded them that he did not want to have to go away again just to get new members in the class! We are so grateful to all of our friends for their support and prayers and the many vigils that were kept on our behalf. God's blessing to us.
This afternoon Lee's farm buddies came over and they had a "social hour" in Lee's "Man's room" in the basement. It is so good to see him able to return to some of his previous activities.
All in all, this has been another wonderful day in Vale. So good to be home!
More Later.........................................Brenda
Exercise today was very good for Lee. He was able to walk for 30 minutes and I walked for 40 minutes. I met with a friend from church and she and I were able to catch-up on news in our absence. It is always easier to walk with a buddy. Afterwards there were the usual errands to run, then home for lunch followed by Lee's breathing treatment. This afternoon I decided to get a start on holiday baking and made two pecan pies. Later this evening a neighbor brought a freshly made pumpkin pie (with the pumpkin from his patch)......yum!
Since we have been home we have been the recipients of many home made goodies. We have Robert's famous sourdough rolls now residing in the freezer in anticipation of one of the holiday meals. Another friend from church brought a delicious pumpkin pie over last week. Margaret has given us some of her really good pimento cheese among other things. In addition, so many of Lee" farmer friends have been by to help feed the farm critters and cows and to always stop along the way to the convenience site. We are indeed blessed.
We did go to church on Sunday............only to our SS class. It was wonderful to see all of our old friends again. Lee wore a purple mask and a blue glove. Quite the dapper fellow! Everyone was very cautious to keep distance, to avoid hugs and handshakes. Lee spoke briefly to the class and reminded them that when he had to leave a year ago there were only about 12 people in our class. Sunday there were 28 and he reminded them that he did not want to have to go away again just to get new members in the class! We are so grateful to all of our friends for their support and prayers and the many vigils that were kept on our behalf. God's blessing to us.
This afternoon Lee's farm buddies came over and they had a "social hour" in Lee's "Man's room" in the basement. It is so good to see him able to return to some of his previous activities.
All in all, this has been another wonderful day in Vale. So good to be home!
More Later.........................................Brenda
Saturday, November 13, 2010
Sweet Saturday
I call this "Sweet Saturday" because in trying to describe it that just seemed to fit. Lee and I began our Saturday with coffey and followed that with Lee's choice of pancakes with peaches. We still have lots of peaches in the freezer and these are the ones that came from Lee's small peach orchard behind the gazebo in our backyard. We both believed they were just the best we had tasted because they were cultivated and harvested by Lee in the Summer of 2009. We consumed this tasty breakfast with thankful hearts.
Our routine here is beginning to be more normal for the two of us. Our mornings are filled with personal care, breakfast, all the medications, exercises and the logging of all the activities and stats that are required by Duke. For me, of course, other chores must be sandwiched in between. The laundry must be done and the house kept tidy. By the time we have finished, it is time for lunch and more medication and more log ins of transactions. We really do not have any free time until the afternoons.
Currently our week is something like this:
Monday-Wednesday-Friday: To the Family Life Center @ church to walk and do weights
Tuesday -Thursday-Saturday: Focus on personal care other than routine baths
Sunday: Hopefully soon, church (not tomorrow since Lee's BP is too low and his K is too high!
All in all, this has been a day more similar to the way we "were". I washed windows and did a lot of laundry. Lee was able to take the golfcart to the shed and meet with a buyer for some of his farm equipment. He is on the phone often with business and other interest.
We encourage visitors to call and arrange a time in the afternoons between 1:00 & 5:00. We continue to limit visitor time and at the moment have decided that it is in Lee's best interest to have all visitors to mask when entering the house. At first we did not do this but in light of this being the flu and cold season from here through March, I feel that it is in Lee's best interest to do this. I have to admit that I have a certain degree of paranoia in regards to Lee catching something. I ask you to please be forgiving of me in that regard. After being in and out of hospitals for a year and being away for 5 straight months, I really do not want to have to leave again. I ask you to be patient with me because an illness for Lee means a return to Duke and a hospitalization once again. Wearing a mask and using hand sanitizer is a small request considering the consequences that may occur when this is not done.
I want to thank those of you who continue to follow me on this blog. It is a way for me to communicate and at the same time it allows me to experience the support that I know I have from all of you.
More Later...........................................Brenda
Our routine here is beginning to be more normal for the two of us. Our mornings are filled with personal care, breakfast, all the medications, exercises and the logging of all the activities and stats that are required by Duke. For me, of course, other chores must be sandwiched in between. The laundry must be done and the house kept tidy. By the time we have finished, it is time for lunch and more medication and more log ins of transactions. We really do not have any free time until the afternoons.
Currently our week is something like this:
Monday-Wednesday-Friday: To the Family Life Center @ church to walk and do weights
Tuesday -Thursday-Saturday: Focus on personal care other than routine baths
Sunday: Hopefully soon, church (not tomorrow since Lee's BP is too low and his K is too high!
All in all, this has been a day more similar to the way we "were". I washed windows and did a lot of laundry. Lee was able to take the golfcart to the shed and meet with a buyer for some of his farm equipment. He is on the phone often with business and other interest.
We encourage visitors to call and arrange a time in the afternoons between 1:00 & 5:00. We continue to limit visitor time and at the moment have decided that it is in Lee's best interest to have all visitors to mask when entering the house. At first we did not do this but in light of this being the flu and cold season from here through March, I feel that it is in Lee's best interest to do this. I have to admit that I have a certain degree of paranoia in regards to Lee catching something. I ask you to please be forgiving of me in that regard. After being in and out of hospitals for a year and being away for 5 straight months, I really do not want to have to leave again. I ask you to be patient with me because an illness for Lee means a return to Duke and a hospitalization once again. Wearing a mask and using hand sanitizer is a small request considering the consequences that may occur when this is not done.
I want to thank those of you who continue to follow me on this blog. It is a way for me to communicate and at the same time it allows me to experience the support that I know I have from all of you.
More Later...........................................Brenda
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
Warp Speed
Funny how much faster time seems to be moving since our return home to Vale! While in Durham, the days seemed to just drag by most of the time. Since returning, it seems that we leave one Wednesday only to be there again suddenly! I think a lot of that has to do with being so glad to be home again and also with the age we are now. As we get older, the time actually does move at "warp speed."
I thought I would share today with you and let you see for yourself just how well Lee is doing. Our day began early as we had to leave for the weekly bloodwork at our physician's office. Once again, Lee was given the V.I.P. treatment and we were finished within 20 minutes or so and were on our way to breakfast at Bojangles. It was there that we met our dear friend Robert and also met some friends of Lee's from long ago childhood years. After our meal, we went to the Family Life Center at our church to check out the walking tract above the gym and the weight room. Lee has decided to do his fitness exercises there because it is both convenient and crowd free. We have both decided to go on Monday, Wednesday and Friday. I will be joining him on the walks and the weights. We can become a physically fit "couple".
Our transplant lung coordinator called this evening and was quite pleased to get the results of all Lee's lab tests. She said they were all "perfect"! She asked how he was enjoying his time at home and said that since he was doing so well we only had to do the lab work every two weeks instead of each week.
Today was such a wonderful day! The weather was a perfect 72 degrees with lots of sunshine. Lee was able to take the golfcart out into the yard and pick up some of the pecans from the four pecan trees. After lunch I could not resist getting outside and cleaning some of my flower beds. After that I tackled some of the windows and topped the day off with a big supper of potroast with all the trimmings. We shared with Jennifer, Lee Jr and children. It was quite the "Walton" family gathering! So good to be back in my big kitchen enjoying cooking for family and able to see my backyard from my kitchen window (that is now sparkling clean!).
Tonight as I write, we are a typical couple enjoying after dinner time in our home. Lee has a football game on while he is reading the local newspaper and I am catching up on blogging and visiting with you for a short while. Our experience @ Duke seems in the past and we are looking forward to the good lifestyle that we are beginning to enjoy. We know that we will always be connected to Duke and it is indeed comforting to know they are there.
As we approach this Thanksgiving season we are reminded of our prayers of thankfulness for the gift of Lee's lung.
More Later................................Brenda
I thought I would share today with you and let you see for yourself just how well Lee is doing. Our day began early as we had to leave for the weekly bloodwork at our physician's office. Once again, Lee was given the V.I.P. treatment and we were finished within 20 minutes or so and were on our way to breakfast at Bojangles. It was there that we met our dear friend Robert and also met some friends of Lee's from long ago childhood years. After our meal, we went to the Family Life Center at our church to check out the walking tract above the gym and the weight room. Lee has decided to do his fitness exercises there because it is both convenient and crowd free. We have both decided to go on Monday, Wednesday and Friday. I will be joining him on the walks and the weights. We can become a physically fit "couple".
Our transplant lung coordinator called this evening and was quite pleased to get the results of all Lee's lab tests. She said they were all "perfect"! She asked how he was enjoying his time at home and said that since he was doing so well we only had to do the lab work every two weeks instead of each week.
Today was such a wonderful day! The weather was a perfect 72 degrees with lots of sunshine. Lee was able to take the golfcart out into the yard and pick up some of the pecans from the four pecan trees. After lunch I could not resist getting outside and cleaning some of my flower beds. After that I tackled some of the windows and topped the day off with a big supper of potroast with all the trimmings. We shared with Jennifer, Lee Jr and children. It was quite the "Walton" family gathering! So good to be back in my big kitchen enjoying cooking for family and able to see my backyard from my kitchen window (that is now sparkling clean!).
Tonight as I write, we are a typical couple enjoying after dinner time in our home. Lee has a football game on while he is reading the local newspaper and I am catching up on blogging and visiting with you for a short while. Our experience @ Duke seems in the past and we are looking forward to the good lifestyle that we are beginning to enjoy. We know that we will always be connected to Duke and it is indeed comforting to know they are there.
As we approach this Thanksgiving season we are reminded of our prayers of thankfulness for the gift of Lee's lung.
More Later................................Brenda
Sunday, November 7, 2010
Sunday Morning
Our second Sunday at home. This has been an uneventful week so far as being negative, but a very eventful week on the positive side. Lee continues to improve on the breathing test that we daily log. We are very encouraged because this test is the one that is most indicative of his progress and his recovery. Today I almost did a cheer because he had the highest level since his surgery on June 23! Now that is something to cheer about!
I can't tell you how good it feels to be able to reach our children, relatives, neighbors and friends in a short while. While we were in Durham, the three hour chiasm seemed much greater. Now we are minutes from those who are such a part of our daily lives. On the other hand, we miss our family in Raleigh whom we had become accustomed to calling and seeing almost on a daily basis. In spite of the unfortunate circumstances that contributed to our relocating to Durham, it offered me the wonderful opportunity to reunite with Roger & Genice, Dennis & Betsy and to Michele Sever. What a blessing to know that with just a phone call they were immediately accessible to us when needed. I felt especially blessed to be able to spend the time with my brother and his wife, Betsy. Our separation began many years ago when they became foreign missionaries to Colombia, South America and later to Quito, Ecuador. This separation continued over the span of 14 years. When they came back to the states, it was to live in a state other than N.C. to reside for 7 years. We were thrilled when they announced the move to Raleigh 12 years ago. For Dennis and me, my time in Durham was a time to reacquaint ourselves as siblings and to recapture so much of our long ago childhood.
As you can see, Lee and I are still transitioning to the move home. We are missing friends and family we had the five months in Durham and we are trying to recapture our lifestyle here with the changes that we are making. It is not quite the same, but it is very good and we know with time that we, too, will adjust.
Sunday morning.......................we would like to have been able to go back to our church today, however, our a.m. schedule is very busy and we would like to make sure it is safe this time for Lee to be in large crowds. Another lifestyle that we must not take lightly. As Lee becomes stronger, and when we feel it is safe we will venture out, especially on Sunday morning.
More Later..........................................Brenda
I can't tell you how good it feels to be able to reach our children, relatives, neighbors and friends in a short while. While we were in Durham, the three hour chiasm seemed much greater. Now we are minutes from those who are such a part of our daily lives. On the other hand, we miss our family in Raleigh whom we had become accustomed to calling and seeing almost on a daily basis. In spite of the unfortunate circumstances that contributed to our relocating to Durham, it offered me the wonderful opportunity to reunite with Roger & Genice, Dennis & Betsy and to Michele Sever. What a blessing to know that with just a phone call they were immediately accessible to us when needed. I felt especially blessed to be able to spend the time with my brother and his wife, Betsy. Our separation began many years ago when they became foreign missionaries to Colombia, South America and later to Quito, Ecuador. This separation continued over the span of 14 years. When they came back to the states, it was to live in a state other than N.C. to reside for 7 years. We were thrilled when they announced the move to Raleigh 12 years ago. For Dennis and me, my time in Durham was a time to reacquaint ourselves as siblings and to recapture so much of our long ago childhood.
As you can see, Lee and I are still transitioning to the move home. We are missing friends and family we had the five months in Durham and we are trying to recapture our lifestyle here with the changes that we are making. It is not quite the same, but it is very good and we know with time that we, too, will adjust.
Sunday morning.......................we would like to have been able to go back to our church today, however, our a.m. schedule is very busy and we would like to make sure it is safe this time for Lee to be in large crowds. Another lifestyle that we must not take lightly. As Lee becomes stronger, and when we feel it is safe we will venture out, especially on Sunday morning.
More Later..........................................Brenda
Thursday, November 4, 2010
"Clinic visit" in Lincolnton
I refer to it as a clinic visit because we are now able to see our family physician for Lee's routine blood work each week. Today was the first day for that. Lee was treated like the "Grand Duke of Wherever" by the entire staff. He was quickly ushered through a private entrance to a treatment room away from a highly trafficked area. There was no waiting.................each person, including his doctor was there to examine him, draw the blood and to do the nasal swab for the RSV test. Truly he had the "red carpet" treatment. Everyone seemed so happy to see him back again and we know that they were genuine in their expression of happiness. The words "Thank-you" seem inadequate, but we do thank-you all so much.
Afterwards, we went to Bo Jangles for breakfast and in spite of the cold rain it was good to be doing what most people are able to do all the time. For us it was a real treat because it was the first time in a year. From there we ran several errands and were back home by noon. This afternoon Lee was visited by his brothers and later his "social buddies" came by for a visit. There is so much motivation here for Lee to become more active. He walks freely throughout the house and this afternoon he walked downstairs and back up again..............that is a first and such good exercise for him. He has already told me that he plans to be able to drive his truck in the next two weeks!
I have been especially relieved to see daily that his breathing stats are staying very good. When those stats begin to drop it always means either fluid retention, infection or rejection. So far, his has been steadily higher! So far, coming home has been the best medicine, not just for Lee, but also for me. I am really enjoying having my own laundry area again. At the condo I could only use the laundry room after 5:00 pm except on week-ends. Now what used to be a chore has actually become a luxury!
We decided to end this chilly, drizzly November day with one of our favorite comfort foods for supper. Hot, oyster stew! We plan to have one more bowl before bedtime. The best sleeping medicine we know.
It is good to be writing again and so good to be writing joyfully. Once again, my cup is full and I am appreciative of the time we have at home with some of our family close by. Because of our experience this past year, we no longer take our time nor our lives for granted. Life and all it offers, is indeed, a gift.
More Later.....................................Brenda
More Later.............................................Brenda
Afterwards, we went to Bo Jangles for breakfast and in spite of the cold rain it was good to be doing what most people are able to do all the time. For us it was a real treat because it was the first time in a year. From there we ran several errands and were back home by noon. This afternoon Lee was visited by his brothers and later his "social buddies" came by for a visit. There is so much motivation here for Lee to become more active. He walks freely throughout the house and this afternoon he walked downstairs and back up again..............that is a first and such good exercise for him. He has already told me that he plans to be able to drive his truck in the next two weeks!
I have been especially relieved to see daily that his breathing stats are staying very good. When those stats begin to drop it always means either fluid retention, infection or rejection. So far, his has been steadily higher! So far, coming home has been the best medicine, not just for Lee, but also for me. I am really enjoying having my own laundry area again. At the condo I could only use the laundry room after 5:00 pm except on week-ends. Now what used to be a chore has actually become a luxury!
We decided to end this chilly, drizzly November day with one of our favorite comfort foods for supper. Hot, oyster stew! We plan to have one more bowl before bedtime. The best sleeping medicine we know.
It is good to be writing again and so good to be writing joyfully. Once again, my cup is full and I am appreciative of the time we have at home with some of our family close by. Because of our experience this past year, we no longer take our time nor our lives for granted. Life and all it offers, is indeed, a gift.
More Later.....................................Brenda
More Later.............................................Brenda
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
The Whistler
This afternoon I was downstairs doing laundry and I heard a familiar sound....................it was a whistle! Lee was whistling for me to get my attention. He was trying to tell me to answer the downstairs phone. I must explain how exciting it was to hear that whistle. You see, Lee has not been able to whistle since last November! His oxygen dependency only allowed for breathing. Since surgery he had so many complications that he was too weak to do anything but once again concentrate on breathing. And now................The Whistle! Strange how this simple method of communication can become a joyous response and measurement of Lee's progress.
In our relationship, the whistle had become an important part of our communication system. For instance, when I was mowing the lawn with him many years ago (two lawn mowers), he had to whistle to warn me that I was about to mow down his prize tree that he had just planted. Another time, he had to whistle to warn me that I was about to back into another vehicle. How could I forget the "wolf" whistle as I walked through the yard and did not know that he was anywhere close by. That was always a good whistle! Now you understand how important it was to hear that whistle!
Lee has also been practicing his driving here. He drives around the circle driveway and gets the paper. When the weather permits, he walks. I can already see more of his strength returning and he says that he feels stronger each day. His appetite is very good and he has begun to ask for "refills". Now he has not done that in a long time. Each afternoon we have gone for a drive, and Lee is amazed at the changes that have occured in just a year. I stopped by Belks in Lincolnton yesterday and felt like I was in a different store as they had changed it all around. Too bad for Belks............I did not buy as much because I could not find anything! I had not been there since last November.
Well............time to get into our routine.............blood sugar, insulin..........prepare supper....................
Another wonderful day on the farm!
More Later....................................Brenda
In our relationship, the whistle had become an important part of our communication system. For instance, when I was mowing the lawn with him many years ago (two lawn mowers), he had to whistle to warn me that I was about to mow down his prize tree that he had just planted. Another time, he had to whistle to warn me that I was about to back into another vehicle. How could I forget the "wolf" whistle as I walked through the yard and did not know that he was anywhere close by. That was always a good whistle! Now you understand how important it was to hear that whistle!
Lee has also been practicing his driving here. He drives around the circle driveway and gets the paper. When the weather permits, he walks. I can already see more of his strength returning and he says that he feels stronger each day. His appetite is very good and he has begun to ask for "refills". Now he has not done that in a long time. Each afternoon we have gone for a drive, and Lee is amazed at the changes that have occured in just a year. I stopped by Belks in Lincolnton yesterday and felt like I was in a different store as they had changed it all around. Too bad for Belks............I did not buy as much because I could not find anything! I had not been there since last November.
Well............time to get into our routine.............blood sugar, insulin..........prepare supper....................
Another wonderful day on the farm!
More Later....................................Brenda
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
Missing Blogging!
We are home in Vale and guess what? I am missing my communication with you bloggers! So.......because of my extreme loneliness for you guys I just have to continue blogging a little while longer!
What a trip home! Our sons, Doug and Todd arrived Friday @ 9:00 a.m. from Radford, Va. and Waxhaw, N.C. They began loading the truck, van and car immediately. Betsy came from Raleigh to help me finish packing and I just put her in the kitchen and the frig and said , "clear it all out!" Between the four of us, we were able to have everything loaded and were pulling out of the parking lot at Duke Towers by 10:15 a.m.
As we were entering the entrance ramp onto I-85, I noticed in my rear view mirror that Doug, the driver of Lee's truck had pulled over and Todd was stopping right behind. Lee also saw this in his side mirror. He told me to pull over because they might need our help. Now I ask you, what could this female driver do other than to continue driving and what could Lee do with his walker in his present condition?! That is exactly what I said to him along with letting him know that I was sure the boys could handle any problem. ( Always the parent, even when the "boys" are 41 and 43!) When we saw them later at the rest stop we learned that Lee's recliner moved as they were moving along and had to stop and reposition the chair. No problems the rest of the journey home.
Even though I have had boxes sitting in practically every room and much to do, it has been wonderful to be home again. Daughter Julia arrived this afternoon and in a whirlwind began unpacking and putting things away. In the space of two hours, things were in their place once again! She amazes me! At this time Durham seems far away even though we know that we will be going back frequently and as necessary. Truly this is a miracle to have Lee back. He looks so much better and I know that now that he is home he will continue to get stronger and stronger. He seems very happy. I know that I am very happy to be here with him. I am finally better and my cold is gone. I had it for three weeks. I went to the doctor yesterday at Lee's insistance even though I felt like it was gone. I am very, very tired. I know that I will recover but I felt like I was experiencing the fatigue of the past five months all at one time. I honestly do not know how I found the energy to pack and to drive home.
Since we have been home, we have both enjoyed sleeping long hours at night. The third night here, I slept 10 hours without waking and Lee did the same. Each night we sleep at least 8-9 hours and Lee usually has a nap during the afternoon. I suppose we are catching up after all those lost hours of sleep. That, too, has probably contributed to the fatigue. My doctor did lots of blood work and chest x-ray yesterday and today I received a very good report on all.
Thanks for being there again for me, especially. I have missed having you there to support me through all the difficult times. It would be selfish of me to not share the good times with you now so I will continue sharing the progress with you. If you wish, visit the blog two to three times a week and I will be there waiting for you.
More Later...................................Brenda
What a trip home! Our sons, Doug and Todd arrived Friday @ 9:00 a.m. from Radford, Va. and Waxhaw, N.C. They began loading the truck, van and car immediately. Betsy came from Raleigh to help me finish packing and I just put her in the kitchen and the frig and said , "clear it all out!" Between the four of us, we were able to have everything loaded and were pulling out of the parking lot at Duke Towers by 10:15 a.m.
As we were entering the entrance ramp onto I-85, I noticed in my rear view mirror that Doug, the driver of Lee's truck had pulled over and Todd was stopping right behind. Lee also saw this in his side mirror. He told me to pull over because they might need our help. Now I ask you, what could this female driver do other than to continue driving and what could Lee do with his walker in his present condition?! That is exactly what I said to him along with letting him know that I was sure the boys could handle any problem. ( Always the parent, even when the "boys" are 41 and 43!) When we saw them later at the rest stop we learned that Lee's recliner moved as they were moving along and had to stop and reposition the chair. No problems the rest of the journey home.
Even though I have had boxes sitting in practically every room and much to do, it has been wonderful to be home again. Daughter Julia arrived this afternoon and in a whirlwind began unpacking and putting things away. In the space of two hours, things were in their place once again! She amazes me! At this time Durham seems far away even though we know that we will be going back frequently and as necessary. Truly this is a miracle to have Lee back. He looks so much better and I know that now that he is home he will continue to get stronger and stronger. He seems very happy. I know that I am very happy to be here with him. I am finally better and my cold is gone. I had it for three weeks. I went to the doctor yesterday at Lee's insistance even though I felt like it was gone. I am very, very tired. I know that I will recover but I felt like I was experiencing the fatigue of the past five months all at one time. I honestly do not know how I found the energy to pack and to drive home.
Since we have been home, we have both enjoyed sleeping long hours at night. The third night here, I slept 10 hours without waking and Lee did the same. Each night we sleep at least 8-9 hours and Lee usually has a nap during the afternoon. I suppose we are catching up after all those lost hours of sleep. That, too, has probably contributed to the fatigue. My doctor did lots of blood work and chest x-ray yesterday and today I received a very good report on all.
Thanks for being there again for me, especially. I have missed having you there to support me through all the difficult times. It would be selfish of me to not share the good times with you now so I will continue sharing the progress with you. If you wish, visit the blog two to three times a week and I will be there waiting for you.
More Later...................................Brenda
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